6. Intimacy and affection

Articles

What The Battle Of The Sexes Is All About (August 1999)

This article examines how women want more intimacy in a relationship while men want autonomy. This sets up a classic "demand/withdraw" pattern in marriage. The article gives biological, sociological and power differential explanations for the phenomenon and how desire for change plays out in gender relationships.

Arrival Of First Child Brings Challenges (May 2000)

This article summarizes the changes that a fisrt child brings to a marriage. There are several new challenges couples face as they intergrate the new child in their family while perserving their commitment to the marital relationship. The article enumerates some of these challenges.

Who Pays Attention In Relationships (February 2001)

This article describes the amount of attention of detail necessary to have a successful courtship and marriage. Generally women are more attentive than men in learning about their partner's needs background. This article shows the positive impact on relationships when both parties agressively learn about each other's lives.

What Men Wish Their Wives Would Do Differently (May 2001)

This article describes seven expectations that men often bring to their marriages.

Marriage Anniversaries Deserve More Attention (November 2001)

This article highlights how more emphasis on the importance of celebrating wedding anniversaries and give practical tips on how to do it. This is based on the ideas of William J. Doherty, PhD of the University of Minnesota. He is the author of a recent book, "Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together In A World That Pulls Us Apart."

Valentine's Day Not The Best Day To Show Romance (February 2002)

This article describes how romance is a function of surprise. Romance in marriage nneds to happen more than one day a year. Valentin'es Day is an important ritual but the other 364 days of the year are the days to really make an impression.

Men, When It Comes To Sex, Less Can Mean More (January 2003)

This article explains important differences between sex and affection. Too much emphasis on sexual fulfillment and poor communication can mean unnecessary alienation and lack of affection in couples. Having clear signals and less sexual interaction can open the door for a more lving and affectionate relationship.

Male Readers Respond On Sex And Affection (March 2003)

This article highlights a male perspective on relationships problems that ensue when sex and affection are not incorporated into a regular marital interaction.

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	Val Farmer 35 Years of Counseling General Topics VI. Relationships 6. Intimacy and affection Login Articles What The Battle Of The Sexes Is All About (August 1999) This article examines how women want more intimacy in a relationship while men want autonomy. This sets up a classic "demand/withdraw" pattern in marriage. The article gives biological, sociological and power differential explanations for the phenomenon and how desire for change plays out in gender relationships. Arrival Of First Child Brings Challenges (May 2000) This article summarizes the changes that a fisrt child brings to a marriage. There are several new challenges couples face as they intergrate the new child in their family while perserving their commitment to the marital relationship. The article enumerates some of these challenges. Who Pays Attention In Relationships (February 2001) This article describes the amount of attention of detail necessary to have a successful courtship and marriage. Generally women are more attentive than men in learning about their partner's needs background. This article shows the positive impact on relationships when both parties agressively learn about each other's lives. What Men Wish Their Wives Would Do Differently (May 2001) This article describes seven expectations that men often bring to their marriages. Marriage Anniversaries Deserve More Attention (November 2001) This article highlights how more emphasis on the importance of celebrating wedding anniversaries and give practical tips on how to do it. This is based on the ideas of William J. Doherty, PhD of the University of Minnesota. He is the author of a recent book, "Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together In A World That Pulls Us Apart." Valentine's Day Not The Best Day To Show Romance (February 2002) This article describes how romance is a function of surprise. Romance in marriage nneds to happen more than one day a year. Valentin'es Day is an important ritual but the other 364 days of the year are the days to really make an impression. Men, When It Comes To Sex, Less Can Mean More (January 2003) This article explains important differences between sex and affection. Too much emphasis on sexual fulfillment and poor communication can mean unnecessary alienation and lack of affection in couples. Having clear signals and less sexual interaction can open the door for a more lving and affectionate relationship. Male Readers Respond On Sex And Affection (March 2003) This article highlights a male perspective on relationships problems that ensue when sex and affection are not incorporated into a regular marital interaction. Next Page