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9. Abusive relationshipsLoginArticlesLearning To Control Anger (June 1998)
"Heat not a furnace for your foe so hot that it doth singe yourself." -Shakespeare - Henry VIII. Anger does much more harm that we realize. Our judgment fails. We badly underestimate the impact that anger can have on a close relationship. Frequent experiences of intense anger stimulate further anger in our self and others. "Once anger begins to take control of the mind, it calls just what it does cruelly." - St. Gregory the Great "Con ... Readers Respond To Column on Family Life, Abuse (April 2000)
This article shares the views of respondants who have encountered abusive marriages and have had to make hard choices They offer advice for women on how to react to abuse in a way that protects their safety. Stopping Abuse Goes Beyond Threats (January 2001)
This article describes how verbal and physical abuse requires decisive action. Cautions are given however with regard to confrontation. Sometimes the best course of action is to leave and seek a safe haven. Defining Emotional And Verbal Abuse (April 2001)
This article describes some common behaviors of verbal and emotional abuse. This can serve as a guideline for people to recognize these habits themselves or to more clearly understand when they are victims of emotional and verbal abuse. Codependency: When Trying To Please Backfires (September 2001)
This article examines the concept of codependency and how it differs from charity, devotion, and giving. People with this issue are trying to fill an inner void of approval by self-sacrifice. Thier giving backfires and they are taken advantage of in relationships. Christianity Or Codependency: Does Giving Have Limits? (October 2001)
This article looks at the fine line between self-sacrifice, love and charity and self-sacrifical acts given because of a lack of personal identity or approval. This is confusing for people who are coming aout of codependent relationships. Codependency: Quest For Identity As An Adult (October 2001)
This article decribes various treatment options for people with codependency. The article emphasizes partipication in self-help groups along with individual therapy to help resolve family of origins issues. Violence Is A Choice (December 2001)
This article summarizes how we can control our behavior by pre-deciding the limits of our reactions. If and when we are in a provoking situation our reactions are programmed to react non-violently. Violence Is Learned But Does Not End In the Home (July 2002)
This article reviews the origins of violence with children and teen-agers. There are many causes for the growth of violence by young people but the root cause goes back to family life and parenting. The article cites the research of psychologist Ervin Staub of the Unversity of Massa chusetts at Amherst. The Scriptural Case Against Anger (September 2002)
This article contains key scriptural references to anger and communications. |
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