5. Common marital issues

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Men And Women: Not Exactly From Mars Or Venus (February 1997)

Are men and women different? Of course they are. Are they the same? Of course they are. The important questions to ask about are how are they the same and how are they different?

Some popular myths about differences need debunking. Thes

Ten Surefire Ways To Louse Up A Perfect Marriage (January 1997)

What’s that you say - not enough trouble in your life? Are you looking for big time marital problems? You’ve come to the right place. Here are ten tried and true ways, tested by many couples, for creating exquisite pain and unhappiness

Help For Compulsive Buyers (January 1995)

One hidden problem in our society is how people impulsively buy things to feel better about themselves. Overspending is a form of self-medication to address inner feelings of low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, or a sense of inner emptiness. I

Before You Unleash Your Tongue, Consider This (July 1996)

Happy couples criticize less often than distressed couples. This is one of the main findings when happy and distressed couples are compared with each other.

Couples who are angry are quick to criticize each other. In the heat of an argu

Being Defensive Gets In The Way Of A Good Marriage (September 1999)

Dr. Farmer summarizes the fundamentals in making the best of conflict-laden discussions. He gives concrete advice on how to break up poor communication habits and methodically observe good conversational etiquette.

Don't Fight Fire With Fire - Or Ice (October 2000)

This article summarizes research on the destructive effect withdrawal has on marital relationships.

Not Compatible? Here's How Couples Can Start Enjoying Each Other Again (August 2001)

This article summarizes the policy of joint agreement elucidated by psychologist William Harley. The key to compatibility is finding agreements that both partners can support enthusiastically or continuing to negotiate.

Guilt Warns Us To Correct Relationship Problems (March 2002)

This article summarizes some of the research by Roy Baumeister at Case Western Reserve University on the role of guilt in correcting relationship problems. Guilt is an emotion that gives early warning that if we continue a behavior or fail to make amends, a valued, close relationship will suffer.

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	Val Farmer 35 Years of Counseling General Topics VI. Relationships 5. Common marital issues Login Articles Men And Women: Not Exactly From Mars Or Venus (February 1997) Are men and women different? Of course they are. Are they the same? Of course they are. The important questions to ask about are how are they the same and how are they different? Some popular myths about differences need debunking. Thes Ten Surefire Ways To Louse Up A Perfect Marriage (January 1997) What’s that you say - not enough trouble in your life? Are you looking for big time marital problems? You’ve come to the right place. Here are ten tried and true ways, tested by many couples, for creating exquisite pain and unhappiness Help For Compulsive Buyers (January 1995) One hidden problem in our society is how people impulsively buy things to feel better about themselves. Overspending is a form of self-medication to address inner feelings of low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, or a sense of inner emptiness. I Before You Unleash Your Tongue, Consider This (July 1996) Happy couples criticize less often than distressed couples. This is one of the main findings when happy and distressed couples are compared with each other. Couples who are angry are quick to criticize each other. In the heat of an argu Being Defensive Gets In The Way Of A Good Marriage (September 1999) Dr. Farmer summarizes the fundamentals in making the best of conflict-laden discussions. He gives concrete advice on how to break up poor communication habits and methodically observe good conversational etiquette. Don't Fight Fire With Fire - Or Ice (October 2000) This article summarizes research on the destructive effect withdrawal has on marital relationships. Not Compatible? Here's How Couples Can Start Enjoying Each Other Again (August 2001) This article summarizes the policy of joint agreement elucidated by psychologist William Harley. The key to compatibility is finding agreements that both partners can support enthusiastically or continuing to negotiate. Guilt Warns Us To Correct Relationship Problems (March 2002) This article summarizes some of the research by Roy Baumeister at Case Western Reserve University on the role of guilt in correcting relationship problems. Guilt is an emotion that gives early warning that if we continue a behavior or fail to make amends, a valued, close relationship will suffer. Next Page