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4. Troubled Marriages and FarmingLoginArticlesReaders Give More Advice To Montana Farm Woman (June 1998)
A Montana woman wrote about giving up her city career to marry a farmer. She felt she didn’t have challenging work in her life and was shut out from the family farming operation. Here are some more responses. From South Dakota. A woman wrote about her family’s experience of moving back to a family farm. "I can actually thank the Lord for this because I absolutely HATED the whole experience and we would have never had gotten out of there if they (her brothe ... Is Val Farmer Guilty Of Male Bashing? (July 1998)
In my graduation advice column I included a couple of statements directed at young men: "If she's angry, she's right," and, "Never strike a woman." I received this response. Your advice to graduates finally goaded me to write and complain about your male bashing. There is a long string in your columns of a bias against men in both your advice and catering to some women's endless whining. As it happens, the majority of intersex abuse is initiated ... Montana Farm Woman Feels Useless, Isolated, Stupid (March 1998)
Dear, Dr. Farmer, I sold my business, home and left family and friends in hopes to marry a good man and a farmer. I don't know if the decision I made was a stupid mid-life crisis decision. I am interested to know if there are other women out there that have done the same thing and now find it was a bad mistake. It was my understanding from the start that I would use my business skills to help make the farm better, bigger and more profitable. This has not come ab ... Readers Respond To Isolated Montana Farm Woman's Letter (May 1998)
I received several responses to the letter written by the Montana farm woman who described her feelings of frustration at not having challenging work in her life. She also felt shut out of the family farming operation. I am including some of the advice in this column. I will have another column with more responses. From Oregon. "We decided that I would quit work. It was a very hard decision as I had worked all my adult life except for brief passages of time. Who an ... Off Farm Work Poses Marital Problems (October 1998)
In the PBS documentary, "The Farmers Wife's," Darrel and Juanita Buschkoetter, work through the dilemma of working off the farm to generate enough money to live and to keep the farm. First Darrel works in a manufacturing job and later for another farmer. Juanita tries a nursing home, cleaning houses and finally goes back to college to get a degree. The off farm work takes a toll on their marriage and forces them to make hard adjustments. Here are some quotations from ... Cowboys Don't Cry And They Don't Talk Either (June 1997)
I recently gave several presentations on stress and coping in the ranch country of Northwestern and North Central South Dakota. These ranchers were anything but jolly. They had undergone the worst winter in their memory. They faced a se Farm Wives Talk About Their Marriages (June 2003)
Here are some excerpts from three poignant letters I received from farm women talking about their unhappy marriages. These e-mails and letters were in response to a column about an unhappy farm woman who compared the farm to a mistress that had haunted their marriage. Advice For Workaholics: Work Less, Live Better, Do Better Work (July 2003)
This article describes ways in which workaholism inferes with a good quality of life. Ways to look at work and leisure are described that hopefully will make sense to someone with a propensity to overwork. |
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