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With Empty Nest, One More Bird Flies Away (January 1998)

Recently I have encountered several farmers in their 5Os and 60s who have been left by their wives. These women finally threw up their hands and wanted out. I have met wives in the throes of deciding how to preserve their mental health because of poor marriages. Their husbands have refused to come with them for counseling.

At this age, the nest is empty. The duties and responsibilities of mothering are largely over. The satisfaction of positive relationships with their children ...

Unkind Farmers (September 1997)

Back in the days when I was a regular contributor to the Farm Wife News magazine, the editor once proposed a column idea on, "Why farmers are so unkind." She had been getting feedback from her readers about lack of respect and consider

Why Are Farmers Prone To Anger? (August 1995)

I've found that farmers and ranchers have more anger problems than most other occupations in society. Of course there are exceptions - I've met many easygoing, patient farmers who handle life in stride.

Why do farmers have anger proble

Why The Farm Comes Ahead Of Family (February 1996)

Farmers, how would you like to work 3,000 hours a year on the farm and donate 500 hours a year to community service?

That is a benchmark figure to avoid problems with work, family and health as recommended by agricultural economist Dav

Going For Counseling Is Both Manly And Courageous (March 2003)

This article points out how going for counseling is a courageous act that requires a recognition of the importance of solving rahter than avoiding problems. Men who seek out counseling and gain information about difficult interpersonal problems show they are willing to learn and apply new concepts into their lives.

A Farm Is Compared To A Mistress (May 2003)

This article was taken from a letter I received that describing the demise of a farm marriage because of the husband's placing priority on the farm over his marriage. These thoughts echo many who have confided in me about the power of farming and how personal relationships get short-changed in the process.

Disgruntled Husbands Pay Doc A Visit (September 2004)

Dr. Farmer pokes some fun at three typical marriage problems in farm families: The "Boss", the "Good Ole Boy" and the "Cowman".

Eight Ways A Woman Can Make A Farmer Miserable (February 2005)

The article takes a humorous but biting look at the behavior some women exhibit in relationship to family farming, thier husbands, the in-laws, and in the community.

Scrooge On The Farm (December 2006)

This article describes the driven nature of some farmers and how it gets in the way of relationships, This article shows how one farmer learned his humanity during the holidays.

The Bond Between A Farmer And His Farm (July 2007)

This article describes the powerful attachments a farmer has for farming and why it is difficult for a farmer to live a balanced lifestyle with proper priority placed on marriage and parenting.

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	Val Farmer 35 Years of Counseling Rural Topics II. Farming and Marriage 3. Perspectives of Men and Farming Login Articles With Empty Nest, One More Bird Flies Away (January 1998) Recently I have encountered several farmers in their 5Os and 60s who have been left by their wives. These women finally threw up their hands and wanted out. I have met wives in the throes of deciding how to preserve their mental health because of poor marriages. Their husbands have refused to come with them for counseling. At this age, the nest is empty. The duties and responsibilities of mothering are largely over. The satisfaction of positive relationships with their children ... Unkind Farmers (September 1997) Back in the days when I was a regular contributor to the Farm Wife News magazine, the editor once proposed a column idea on, "Why farmers are so unkind." She had been getting feedback from her readers about lack of respect and consider Why Are Farmers Prone To Anger? (August 1995) I've found that farmers and ranchers have more anger problems than most other occupations in society. Of course there are exceptions - I've met many easygoing, patient farmers who handle life in stride. Why do farmers have anger proble Why The Farm Comes Ahead Of Family (February 1996) Farmers, how would you like to work 3,000 hours a year on the farm and donate 500 hours a year to community service? That is a benchmark figure to avoid problems with work, family and health as recommended by agricultural economist Dav Going For Counseling Is Both Manly And Courageous (March 2003) This article points out how going for counseling is a courageous act that requires a recognition of the importance of solving rahter than avoiding problems. Men who seek out counseling and gain information about difficult interpersonal problems show they are willing to learn and apply new concepts into their lives. A Farm Is Compared To A Mistress (May 2003) This article was taken from a letter I received that describing the demise of a farm marriage because of the husband's placing priority on the farm over his marriage. These thoughts echo many who have confided in me about the power of farming and how personal relationships get short-changed in the process. Disgruntled Husbands Pay Doc A Visit (September 2004) Dr. Farmer pokes some fun at three typical marriage problems in farm families: The "Boss", the "Good Ole Boy" and the "Cowman". Eight Ways A Woman Can Make A Farmer Miserable (February 2005) The article takes a humorous but biting look at the behavior some women exhibit in relationship to family farming, thier husbands, the in-laws, and in the community. Scrooge On The Farm (December 2006) This article describes the driven nature of some farmers and how it gets in the way of relationships, This article shows how one farmer learned his humanity during the holidays. The Bond Between A Farmer And His Farm (July 2007) This article describes the powerful attachments a farmer has for farming and why it is difficult for a farmer to live a balanced lifestyle with proper priority placed on marriage and parenting.