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3. Happy marriages - overviewLoginArticlesModern Day Knights Sally Forth And Forget Home (April 1997)
St. George went out to slay the dragon and men have never been the same. His story becomes everyman’s story. A knight ventures forth to conquer supernatural forces and overcome daunting perils in the name of his glorious quest. He Marriage Needs Rose Colored Glasses (October 1995)
"I married the world's most wonderful woman. Sorry fellas." I listened to my friend's statement and disagreed. I wasn't feeling sorry for myself at all. I was sure I had married the world's most wonderful woman. I'm sure that Four Rules For A Good Marriage (June 1999)
Is your marriage the way you want it to be? Here is a way of analyzing your marriage for strengths and weaknesses. I divide the basic ingredients of marriage into four interacting principles that build on one another and form an interactive loop. These principles are commitment, meeting needs, minimizing conflict and effective communications and problem solving. Qualities That Make Marriage Last (November 1999)
This article looks at seven qualities of resilience in the individual as described by Dr. Steve Wolin, M.D. and shows their application to enduring marriages. These seven qualities of resilience are morality/spirituality, independence, insight, initiative, humor creativity, and relationships. Marriage Is Not Only Divine But Practical (April 2001)
This article summarizes the research of Linda Waite and Maggie Gallagher on the beneficial effects of marriage. Additional research by Dr. Ichiro Kawachi also is included. Want A Good Marriage? Use Good Manners (February 2002)
This article describes the important role of conversational etiquette in helping to make marital communications respectful and productive. The article points out ways to soften up opinions so they don't arouse the defenses or withdrawal. Also respecting the person who has the floor in a conversaton by good listening and drawing them out is emphasized over the habit of interupting and taking over a conversation. Valentine's Day Not The Best Day To Show Romance (February 2002)
This article describes how romance is a function of surprise. Romance in marriage nneds to happen more than one day a year. Valentin'es Day is an important ritual but the other 364 days of the year are the days to really make an impression. Tyler and April : How To Stay In Love (December 2005)
This article was written to Tyler, our sixth child, and his bride April as wedding advice. These ideas apply to all young married couples and some older couples also. If people learn correct principles, they can have the kind of marriage they want by following these concepts. |
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