1. Courtships, Romance, Breakups.

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Don't Marry A Momma's Boy (March 2005)

Recognize this "good ole boy?" Jake is charming, quick with a joke, the last of the big time spenders, and an all around good guy. He has the gift of gab. He will give you the shirt off his back. He makes stupid bets. He drinks too much.

The guy needs attention and approval from others too much. He loves being the center of attention. Everyone loves him. Everyone wants a piece of him.

This good ole boy has a hard time saying no. He wants to please every ...

Intense Boyfriend Is His Own Worst Enemy (November 1997)

Sam and Bonnie - not their real names - started off well. Sam was handsome, charming, fun-loving and quite vulnerable despite his history of many relationships. He was fine until things got serious. Bonnie was beautiful, witty and level-headed.

Playing The Dating Game (July 1997)

Dear Dr. Farmer,

I have a 16-year-old daughter about to enter the dating stage. That can be a troubling time for parents with "gorilla" boys out there - drugs, date rape and drinking. You went through this with your daughters didn't you?

How Men And Women Get Together (October 1996)

How did you meet your husband or wife, girlfriend or boyfriend? What do you remember about that initial meeting and what happened between you? If you are single and unattached, how do you know if someone new is interested in you?

Timot

Eight Reasons Why Women Make Courtship Mistakes (September 1996)

Many women, who otherwise have good judgment, get involved in relationships that turn out to be destructive and wrong. Despite their wariness, history keeps repeating itself. Unfortunately, as together as these women may be in other aspects of t

Do Your Love Stories Match? (March 2002)

This article tells in story form how marriage partners have different idealized visions of how marriage should be. When the narrative of their lives together doesn't match up to their expectations of what love is about, they grow dissatisfied. The article points out how we have the power to invent other versions of love and to create our own happy endings to a plot that seems to have gone awry.

Are You A Desperate Lover? (September 2002)

This article talks about the reasons why some people become highly anxious, angry and desperate when they feel rejected in courtship. There is a small test to take to see if your attitudes match those who find themselves in people who react badly to breakups.

How Secure Child/Parent Bond Affects Adult Romance (April 2003)

This article summarizes research on how secure attachment with parents during childhood has a positive influence on self-confidence and judgment during courtship situations later in life.

What Men, Women Look For In Dating And Mating (April 2003)

This article summarizes the different perspectives men and women bring to courtship. Both have differential preferences if they perceive the courtship to be building toward long term commitment versus recreational companionship.

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	Val Farmer 35 Years of Counseling General Topics VI. Relationships 1. Courtships, Romance, Breakups. Login Articles Don't Marry A Momma's Boy (March 2005) Recognize this "good ole boy?" Jake is charming, quick with a joke, the last of the big time spenders, and an all around good guy. He has the gift of gab. He will give you the shirt off his back. He makes stupid bets. He drinks too much. The guy needs attention and approval from others too much. He loves being the center of attention. Everyone loves him. Everyone wants a piece of him. This good ole boy has a hard time saying no. He wants to please every ... Intense Boyfriend Is His Own Worst Enemy (November 1997) Sam and Bonnie - not their real names - started off well. Sam was handsome, charming, fun-loving and quite vulnerable despite his history of many relationships. He was fine until things got serious. Bonnie was beautiful, witty and level-headed. Playing The Dating Game (July 1997) Dear Dr. Farmer, I have a 16-year-old daughter about to enter the dating stage. That can be a troubling time for parents with "gorilla" boys out there - drugs, date rape and drinking. You went through this with your daughters didn't you? How Men And Women Get Together (October 1996) How did you meet your husband or wife, girlfriend or boyfriend? What do you remember about that initial meeting and what happened between you? If you are single and unattached, how do you know if someone new is interested in you? Timot Eight Reasons Why Women Make Courtship Mistakes (September 1996) Many women, who otherwise have good judgment, get involved in relationships that turn out to be destructive and wrong. Despite their wariness, history keeps repeating itself. Unfortunately, as together as these women may be in other aspects of t Do Your Love Stories Match? (March 2002) This article tells in story form how marriage partners have different idealized visions of how marriage should be. When the narrative of their lives together doesn't match up to their expectations of what love is about, they grow dissatisfied. The article points out how we have the power to invent other versions of love and to create our own happy endings to a plot that seems to have gone awry. Are You A Desperate Lover? (September 2002) This article talks about the reasons why some people become highly anxious, angry and desperate when they feel rejected in courtship. There is a small test to take to see if your attitudes match those who find themselves in people who react badly to breakups. How Secure Child/Parent Bond Affects Adult Romance (April 2003) This article summarizes research on how secure attachment with parents during childhood has a positive influence on self-confidence and judgment during courtship situations later in life. What Men, Women Look For In Dating And Mating (April 2003) This article summarizes the different perspectives men and women bring to courtship. Both have differential preferences if they perceive the courtship to be building toward long term commitment versus recreational companionship. Next Page