4. Communications skills

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He Says, She Says: But Do They Understand (March 1997)

What do women want? Men can't figure that out. What do men want? Women understand but would like some changes. One main source of confusion is in the different styles men and women use in conversation.

Social psychologist Carol Tavris,

How Counseling Helps Marital Communications (January 1996)

As a marriage counselor, I have seen many situations where couples enter counseling in a state of crisis. There is great pain and ambivalence for both partners as they seek to communicate and reconcile.

One goal of counseling is to dev

Respect:The Key To Successful Marriage (October 1995)

Psychologist John Gottman of the University of Washington recently summarized his thoughts and research on marriage, marriage problems and divorce. He describes the key factors that help him predict with 94 percent accuracy which couples will di

Watch Your Language -Your Body Language! (December 1999)

This article summarizes the key aspects of non-verbal communication and how crucial they are to effective communication.

Marital Conflict: Are You A Meat Grinder Or A Velvet Glove? (January 2001)

The process of communicating is often more important whan what is said. This article points out how belligerance, hostility and negativity chill relationships.

Anger: A Springboard To Communication (January 2001)

This article shows how the proper treatment of anger can lead to greater mutual understanding if the angry person has a good listener.

Building Trust By Honoring Agreements (August 2001)

This article summarizes ideas on how people can sharpen up the way they handle agreements in order to improve their crediblity through four steps.The article describes the basics of trust and how it is developed.

Therapy May Be Hazardous To Your Marital Health (July 2003)

This article summarizes the thoughts of William Doherty on how people who enter individual counseling while experiencing marriage problems find the experience destabilizing for their marriage. One situation is when a person goes to marriage counseling and receives therapy from an untrained or ineffective counselor. Another situation arises when people with marriage probems seek individual therapy. The relationship lends itself to a one-sided perspective of the marriage without addressing the marriage from a systemic point of view.

Communications Key To Marriage Success (October 2003)

This article describes some basic communication ideas that help couples resolve differences in a peaceful and supportive way rather than through a hurtful process.

Improve Listening By Using Talking Stick (March 2004)

This article demonstrates that by using a visual reminder such as a talking stick, people who are poor listeners can learn conversational etiquette and become good listeners. This also gives an opportunity in relationships for people who aren't aggressive enough to give their own opinions to have the opportunity to share their thoughts and feelings.

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	Val Farmer 35 Years of Counseling General Topics VI. Relationships 4. Communications skills Login Articles He Says, She Says: But Do They Understand (March 1997) What do women want? Men can't figure that out. What do men want? Women understand but would like some changes. One main source of confusion is in the different styles men and women use in conversation. Social psychologist Carol Tavris, How Counseling Helps Marital Communications (January 1996) As a marriage counselor, I have seen many situations where couples enter counseling in a state of crisis. There is great pain and ambivalence for both partners as they seek to communicate and reconcile. One goal of counseling is to dev Respect:The Key To Successful Marriage (October 1995) Psychologist John Gottman of the University of Washington recently summarized his thoughts and research on marriage, marriage problems and divorce. He describes the key factors that help him predict with 94 percent accuracy which couples will di Watch Your Language -Your Body Language! (December 1999) This article summarizes the key aspects of non-verbal communication and how crucial they are to effective communication. Marital Conflict: Are You A Meat Grinder Or A Velvet Glove? (January 2001) The process of communicating is often more important whan what is said. This article points out how belligerance, hostility and negativity chill relationships. Anger: A Springboard To Communication (January 2001) This article shows how the proper treatment of anger can lead to greater mutual understanding if the angry person has a good listener. Building Trust By Honoring Agreements (August 2001) This article summarizes ideas on how people can sharpen up the way they handle agreements in order to improve their crediblity through four steps.The article describes the basics of trust and how it is developed. Therapy May Be Hazardous To Your Marital Health (July 2003) This article summarizes the thoughts of William Doherty on how people who enter individual counseling while experiencing marriage problems find the experience destabilizing for their marriage. One situation is when a person goes to marriage counseling and receives therapy from an untrained or ineffective counselor. Another situation arises when people with marriage probems seek individual therapy. The relationship lends itself to a one-sided perspective of the marriage without addressing the marriage from a systemic point of view. Communications Key To Marriage Success (October 2003) This article describes some basic communication ideas that help couples resolve differences in a peaceful and supportive way rather than through a hurtful process. Improve Listening By Using Talking Stick (March 2004) This article demonstrates that by using a visual reminder such as a talking stick, people who are poor listeners can learn conversational etiquette and become good listeners. This also gives an opportunity in relationships for people who aren't aggressive enough to give their own opinions to have the opportunity to share their thoughts and feelings. Next Page