Rural Marriage

Rural Romance Turns Sour (November 2005)

This article describes how farm family dynamics between parents and their farming offspring can cause serious marraige problems if there isn't respect for the young couples autonomy and need to be involved in decision-making on the farm.

Readers Respond To Dr. Farmer's Column On Difficult Women (March 2005)

Readers like or react against Dr. Farmers column on "eight Ways A Woman Can Make A Farmer Miserable."

A City-Raised Woman Discovers The Farm (February 2005)

The article describes the challenges a city-raised woman will have as she adjusts to the farm, the farming lifestyle, in-laws, and the rural community.

"Does He Have Someone Else?" "Yes, The Farm" (January 2011)

This article describes a letter written to a farmer by his wife describing her assessment of what happened to their marriage and why his priority to the farm was placed ahead of her and their relationship. She compares the farm to a mistress.

Seven Ways Farm Marriages Get In Trouble (May 2007)

This article summarizes seven of the top ways farm and ranch marriages get in trouble and encourages couples to seek help early to address these issues.

Creating Unity In Farm Marriages (June 2008)

This article describes the importance of unity in farm marriages and some practical steps on how to achieve it.

Off Farm Work Poses Marital Problems (October 1998)

In the PBS documentary, "The Farmers Wife's," Darrel and Juanita Buschkoetter, work through the dilemma of working off the farm to generate enough money to live and to keep the farm. First Darrel works in a manufacturing job and later for another farmer. Juanita tries a nursing home, cleaning houses and finally goes back to college to get a degree.

The off farm work takes a toll on their marriage and forces them to make hard adjustments. Here are some quotations from ...

Thinking Of Marrying A Farmer? (March 2004)

This article poses a series of questions for a woman thinking of marrying a farmer. The lifestyle and commitments are radically different from other occupations. Also there are other complications such as being business partners with the husband's parents or siblings to consider. these issues need to be understood before blindly jumping into a life that is potentially quite challenging.

Early Marriage Gets Off To Rocky Start (March 2006)

This article describes the challenges faced by young couples who have a quick transition from single life and partying to early marriage and parenthood. Different rates of maturity and interest in social life with single firends pose challenges to young couples who are trying to adapt to parenthood.

HAVING TRUE PARTNERSHIPS IN FARM OR RANCH MARRIAGES

What does that mean "liberated"? I think it means tht women have higher expectations about marriage. They don't want to be treated as secondary objects in the drama of male accomplishment and survival. It is about wanting partnership - a true partnership in every sense of the word.

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	Rural Marriage Rural Romance Turns Sour (November 2005) This article describes how farm family dynamics between parents and their farming offspring can cause serious marraige problems if there isn't respect for the young couples autonomy and need to be involved in decision-making on the farm. Readers Respond To Dr. Farmer's Column On Difficult Women (March 2005) Readers like or react against Dr. Farmers column on "eight Ways A Woman Can Make A Farmer Miserable." A City-Raised Woman Discovers The Farm (February 2005) The article describes the challenges a city-raised woman will have as she adjusts to the farm, the farming lifestyle, in-laws, and the rural community. "Does He Have Someone Else?" "Yes, The Farm" (January 2011) This article describes a letter written to a farmer by his wife describing her assessment of what happened to their marriage and why his priority to the farm was placed ahead of her and their relationship. She compares the farm to a mistress. Seven Ways Farm Marriages Get In Trouble (May 2007) This article summarizes seven of the top ways farm and ranch marriages get in trouble and encourages couples to seek help early to address these issues. Creating Unity In Farm Marriages (June 2008) This article describes the importance of unity in farm marriages and some practical steps on how to achieve it. Off Farm Work Poses Marital Problems (October 1998) In the PBS documentary, "The Farmers Wife's," Darrel and Juanita Buschkoetter, work through the dilemma of working off the farm to generate enough money to live and to keep the farm. First Darrel works in a manufacturing job and later for another farmer. Juanita tries a nursing home, cleaning houses and finally goes back to college to get a degree. The off farm work takes a toll on their marriage and forces them to make hard adjustments. Here are some quotations from ... Thinking Of Marrying A Farmer? (March 2004) This article poses a series of questions for a woman thinking of marrying a farmer. The lifestyle and commitments are radically different from other occupations. Also there are other complications such as being business partners with the husband's parents or siblings to consider. these issues need to be understood before blindly jumping into a life that is potentially quite challenging. Early Marriage Gets Off To Rocky Start (March 2006) This article describes the challenges faced by young couples who have a quick transition from single life and partying to early marriage and parenthood. Different rates of maturity and interest in social life with single firends pose challenges to young couples who are trying to adapt to parenthood. HAVING TRUE PARTNERSHIPS IN FARM OR RANCH MARRIAGES What does that mean "liberated"? I think it means tht women have higher expectations about marriage. They don't want to be treated as secondary objects in the drama of male accomplishment and survival. It is about wanting partnership - a true partnership in every sense of the word. 1 2 Next